not here to be liked review

Hello everyone! My name is Jan and welcome back to another blog post  ◝(ᵔᵕᵔ)◜ ♥

It’s been a while since I’ve done a blog post, I’m vv sorry but lately it’s been hard for me to keep up with school, youtube, and blogging all at the same time but I’m trying my best!!

Today I have brought to you a review for Not Here to Be Liked by Michelle Quach and oh my gosh I loved it. I hope this review pushes everyone to grab a copy because how fluffy and good it was. So, without further ado, let’s get on w/ my review 🙂

Title: Not Here to Be Liked

Author: Michelle Quach

Publishing Date: September 14, 2021

Genre(s): Contemporary, romance, young adult, fiction, feminism, asian literature

Rating: ★★★★★

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Emergency Contact meets Moxie in this cheeky and searing novel that unpacks just how complicated new love can get…when you fall for your enemy.

Eliza Quan is the perfect candidate for editor in chief of her school paper. That is, until ex-jock Len DiMartile decides on a whim to run against her. Suddenly her vast qualifications mean squat because inexperienced Len—who is tall, handsome, and male—just seems more like a leader.

When Eliza’s frustration spills out in a viral essay, she finds herself inspiring a feminist movement she never meant to start, caught between those who believe she’s a gender equality champion and others who think she’s simply crying misogyny.

Amid this growing tension, the school asks Eliza and Len to work side by side to demonstrate civility. But as they get to know one another, Eliza feels increasingly trapped by a horrifying realization—she just might be falling for the face of the patriarchy himself.

(*note: since I’m a book review/writer based in LV, I decided to add in the bookstore where I intern at. Everyone please support small independent bookstores!!)

Even though Eliza Quan wasn’t there to be liked, I found myself liking her soooo much.

NHTBL is a story about feminism and what it means to be a feminist. We follow our main protagonist Eliza, who is a Vietnamese American girl who knows what she wants and won’t stop until she gets it. Throughout reading this, we follow Eliza’s journey towards what it means to be a feminist and accepting her identity.

This book really did remind me of people that I knew in high school and the fake performanist persona they put on. From the start, Eliza finds herself in a situation where someone uploaded her private thoughts of wasian student Len DiMartile who won their school paper’s Editor in Chief position, saying the election was rigged because she was more qualified to be Chief while everyone else merely voted for Len because he was a guy.

Many points were made.

I loved the discussion of double standards that was brought up as well as patriarchal ideas. And since this was in a high school setting where we see double standards left and right, it was easy to find this story relatable and easy to follow.

Even though Eliza’s character in fact “Not Here to Be Liked” I couldn’t help but love her. What I admire the most about Eliza was the fact that she knows what she wants and she knows who she is. Despite society ideals about a woman staying in her place and her mother’s typical expectations of what a good young asian should be like, that is, “being pretty and likeable” Eliza doesn’t let anyone change her so that she’ll be liked. Wearing dresses and putting on makeup so people would vote for her? Wouldn’t it better if people voted for her because of her experience at the Bugle and how qualified she is? But no. What I admired the most about this book was how relatable this was to me as an Asian American growing up in a society where people have certain expectations of me.

There’s this one quote that I couldn’t stop thinking because of how true it was.

“Everyone loves a girlboss until she tells you what to do”

Not Here to Be Liked Michelle Quach

And it’s so true!!! Because even though everyone praises a girlboss all across media until she actually is your boss.

Not only does Michelle Quach bring up the double standards between a guy and girl, but she also manages to bring up the girl on girl hate stigma. At one point in the book, we see Eliza in the middle of a situation where girls are slut-shaming another girl. It’s sucks to see but it’s crazy how relatable this is in real life.

Overall, I really enjoyed Not Here to Be Liked. It’s an amazing contemporary that brings up the important questions and has just the right amount of romance and fluff. Definitely a book everyone needs to pick up!!!

Thanks for stopping by, I hope everyone is doing well 🙂



hey there!

art credit (c) to mihodraws on tumblr!

welcome to my blog! this is my very first new blog post and i apologize if it’s messy or all over the place. i’m still trying to get used to this (T_T)

i thought i should start my very first blog post by talking a little bit more about me and my future plans + thoughts for my new blog since i’m very excited and eagar to get started ╰(*´︶`*)╯♥

so hello! hi, this is me, jan. my name is actually janetsa (pronounced ja-netsa) and i am a twenty year old (newbie) blogger who wants to share her love for books and all things literary and lifestyle ❤

a little bit more information about me is that i love to write!! writing has always been a passion of mine ever since i was kid. i loved writing short stories, creating fake worlds in my head, picturing myself as the main character (bc the mcs were always wh*te) in my favorite books and it’s always been a dream of mine to publish my very own. i’ve been reading and falling in love with books ever since i was 8-years-old and it all started in the fourth grade when the class decided to read percy jackson & the olympians.

to say that i literally grew up with percy jackson is crazy since i’m currently reading the very last (*sniff sniff*) book in the trials of apollo series and it’s making me kind of emotional since percy jackson and the greek gods have been comfort characters all throughout my childhood and teenage years. my little sister will never know the physical pain i went through waiting year after year for the next book and the actual anguish i went through after finishing the house of hades.

another fact is that i really love movies, tv shows, kdramas & kpop !

my favorite group ever is nct (T_T)

my ultimate biases are ten & taeyong ƪ(˘⌣˘)ʃ♡ 

i saw them for the very first time last year with my bestie ais (u might know her as peachnace) and we were supposed to see them again this year but miss rona ruined everything (T_T)

my next favorite group is red velvet (´▽`ʃƪ) ♥

my ultimate biases are joy and seulgi. they’re the first girl group i have ever stanned aside from twice and they have impacted my little gay heart ever since my friend ais introduced them to me.

a few of my favorite movies include detective pikachu, men in black, romeo & juliet, deadpool, spiderman: homecoming, love rosie and a bunch of other films i can’t think of rn lol. some of my favorite shows are euphoria, avatar: the last airbender, the 100, the umbrella academy, and teen wolf. some kdramas i really like are w, goblin, my first first love, it’s okay not to be okay, & extraordinary you.

what are some of your favorite shows?

i have a whole other list for my all time favorite books but i think i’ll put that in a separate blog post because the list can go on and on and i think i can gush over my favorite books and my favorite tropes in another blog post.

so. why did i start this blog?

well, i joined the book community a little over a month ago and i’ve always been on the edge of booktwt, booktube just looking at all the things they talk about and discuss- i sort of grew up watching booktube videos because i didn’t have many friends that read books. i had one (1) friend that i made online but that was pretty much it. books helped me not feel as lonely as i did and i was pretty much gushing and ranting to my friends (WHO DID NOT READ AT ALL) about books that they will never read and i just felt like i was talking to air. i always enjoyed watching and reading other people’s posts and discussions about books and their favorite angsty characters and characters that they want to punch in the face and i felt left out and i thought that it was finally time- to join the book community.

my friend and i have always kept to ourselves about the books we liked and now we both entered this awesome and loving community with other fellow booklovers and i finally feel at home.

it’s always been a dream of mine to publish my own books one day, i (currently) have two wips -one of them is a ya fantasy and the other is dark academia thriller/mystery- and i want to go through this writing adventure with other writers and booklovers to really see myself grow while writing them.

i’m excited to finally start blogging more, thank god i finally moved onto wordpress after being confined to blogger for most of the entire year but i hoped you enjoyed your stay here and i hope to see you back one again!

this has been jan (back once again!)

stay safe ❤

Let’s Talk: Mental Health.

“‘I exist.’ In thousands of agonies–I exist. I’m tortured on the rack–but I exist! Although I sit alone–I exist! I see the sun, and if I don’t see the sun, I know it’s there. And there’s a whole life in that, in knowing that the sun is there.” – Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Brothers Karamazov

Hello everyone! My name is Jan and welcome to another blog post, I will definitely try to post more on this blog and update as much as I can once I figure out how to blog akeke.

So how have you guys been doing during quarantine? How’s your year been? Pick up any new hobbies? New TV shows? Learn anything new?
This year has certainly been… interesting, hasn’t it? A complete and absolute… mess.   Most of us (well, I hope that most of us) had spent a majority of our year in quarantine. Being said, isolation, not seeing your friends, not really having face to face communication in a while and while it may not seem like a big deal but I feel like there is a big difference between being alone and lonely. These days, the words “being alone” and “loneliness” can be mixed up together since nowadays we are… mostly alone, aren’t we? 

But let’s talk about the difference first. 

Alone vs Loneliness.

The difference is that when you’re alone, you’re physically by yourself without anyone around at the moment. While loneliness can take a grasp onto you without warning and it’s like even if you’re in a room full of people, you still feel… by yourself.
And I think loneliness has contributed to a big part of mental health this year. Or every year, really. Everyone is different. 
This year everyone’s life has been adjusted in some way, right? Whether it be online classes, online work, trying to maintain a good social circle, and friendships even when you can’t see the people you want to see the most. Let’s say things really took a toll and your relationships with certain people fell out of bounds, you can’t escape this place that you’re in even if that place is your home. Everyone’s life is different, everyone might experience toxic or terrible things that impacted your mental health and there isn’t really a good outlet to express your feelings correctly because we are… lonely… right? 

Getting Better 

I feel like (in my case, more specifically) that there’s been this idea of trying to get better. Better in terms of whatever you want it to be. Like, getting better in cooking, getting better in waking up, getting better at being a good person. 

In my case, I have just been trying to get better all on my own. When I say ‘all on my own’ for the past two-three or even longer months than that I have really been struggling with my mental health. Waking up feels like a chore and it feels like I’ve been stuck in this insufferable loop that I just can’t get out of. And it’s hard talking about these kinds of things to your parents or anyone because no one else can really understand how you truly feel because it’s you. Getting better isn’t just waking up one day and being all like bonk! I am no longer depressed, I no longer feel these burdening thoughts and no longer question my existence out in the universe! Depression? NEVER HEARD OF HER BEFORE! 

Getting better to me was… trying. Attempting. Doing something. But how could I do anything when I no longer feel like myself?

My unhealthy coping mechanisms consist of not necessarily pushing people away and just… disappearing for a while. I do it unintentionally too, but once I see that other people are moving on with their lives and I’m not… I just sink. 

tag yourself i’m squidward.

So what did it mean to get better? Get better for who? My parents? My friends? Myself? I had to learn how to live with my unhealthy coping mechanisms when my mental health gets worse and that had to start with me. This year was the year I had friendships fall out of place, people coming and going and I didn’t know how to cope with that, my loneliness thoughts began taking control over me to the point where I didn’t feel like I was a person anymore, I was merely… existing. 
But I kept pushing myself to get better. Just get better then everything was going to be all right. I had to stop feeling like the things that didn’t work out were my fault, I had to come with the terms that I was in charge of no one else’s feelings but my own.


Throughout those days where I felt like I wasn’t really there anymore resulted in me laying in my bed with no sense of direction, I forgot that I existed for a bit and I just didn’t… try anymore. It sucked being at a point in your life where you feel like you can’t do anything at all, and that there wasn’t anything anyone else could do for you. 
When those depresso sessions get hard, you don’t necessarily feeling doing… anything, do you?
That’s where the unhealthy coping mechanisms come in. We sink, we black out, we just lay there. But let’s try doing something. There’s the keyword.  Try. 

Let’s try. All right? Let’s try to remember why we do the things we do, why we like the things we like, let’s… try.  Talking to people I actually trust.

Sometimes you don’t really see what you have unless it’s right in front of you, sitting there right under your nose. I became so focused on the things that could’ve been, why they left, why didn’t it work out when I should’ve been focused on what I still have. We don’t really take things for granted until… they’re gone and my mind was so focused on that what could’ve been instead of what I have. Reminding myself of the things that make me happy, the people that make me happy, the people that I know who are always going to be there no matter what help set my mind back at ease, and I talked to my friends again, I tried. That was the difference this time. I actually tried and I’m back in a good space again, with good people and I opened myself up to a new community (hello booktwt and booktube akeke) and I feel… okay again. 

Making better habits

These habits don’t have to CHANGE your life completely overnight, but it’s really the little things that help, even if it’s tiny. 
Little things like opening your curtains to let the daylight in, getting up and brushing your teeth, cleaning your bookshelf, getting yourself a tall glass of water Anything small can help, it’s the fact that you’re trying that makes it worth it. 
These small things can change your life big time, and trying new things can get you back into being active, back into looking forward to something in a day. 
The mental health stigma is still alive and relevant! It’s okay to put your own emotional wellbeing first. It’s okay to think of what’s best for you. 

That’s all for now! I will try to write more blog posts and be more active, I’m still trying to make this into a habit for myself hehe.